- March 6, 2018 at 7:49 pm #7075
Share your experience strength and hope about the loss of your loved one.March 19, 2018 at 2:43 pm #7096
A thousand times we needed you
A thousand times we cried
If love alone could have saved you
you would never have died
A heart of gold stopped beating
two twinkling eyes closed to rest
God broke our hearts to prove he only took the best
never a day goes by that you’re not in my heart and my soul.March 19, 2018 at 3:02 pm #7098
When the sunny skies turn from blue to gray,
I can’t help but wonder just what you would say?
I wonder if you know how many lives you have touched.
Do you know that people here love you so much?
Can you even know how many dreams you made come true,
Or if you can hear the voices saying I love you?
Do you know how many lives you have changed
And how many lives you completely rearranged?
I wish I could have just one more year,
Because I can’t picture the rest of my life without you here.
Just another chance to spend the night and share a laugh.
Another day of school with you is what I’d like to have.
Do you know you’ll be greatly missed by us all?
Just one more time I want to hear your voice when I call.
Just one more laugh, one more time to see you walk through the door.
Another smile, another story, another hug, another day…just one more.March 19, 2018 at 3:38 pm #7101
Grief: Coping with the loss of your loved one
Coping with the loss of your loved one
Coping with the loss of a close friend or family member may be one of the hardest challenges that many of us face. When we lose a spouse, sibling or parent our grief can be particularly intense. The loss is understood as a natural part of life, but we can still be overcome by shock and confusion, leading to prolonged periods of sadness or depression. The sadness typically diminishes in intensity as time passes, but grieving is an important process in order to overcome these feelings and continue to embrace the time you had with your loved one.
Everyone reacts differently to death and employs personal coping mechanisms for grief. Research shows that most people can recover from a loss on their own through the passage of time if they have social support and healthy habits. It may take months or a year to come to terms with a loss. There is no “normal” time period for someone to grieve. Don’t expect to pass through phases of grief either, as new research suggests that most people do not go through stages as progressive steps.
If your relationship with the deceased was difficult, this will also add another dimension to the grieving process. It may take some time and thought before you are able to look back on the relationship and adjust to the loss.
Human beings are naturally resilient, considering most of us can endure loss and then continue on with our own lives. But some people may struggle with grief for longer periods of time and feel unable to carry out daily activities. Those with severe grief may be experiencing complicated grief. These individuals could benefit from the help of a psychologist or another licensed mental health professional with a specialization in grief.
Moving on with life
Mourning the loss of a close friend or relative takes time, but research tells us that it can also be the catalyst for a renewed sense of meaning that offers purpose and direction to life.
Grieving individuals may find it useful to use some of the following strategies to help come to terms with loss:
Talk about the death of your loved one with friends and colleagues in order to understand what happened and remember your friend or family member. Denying the death is an easy way to isolate yourself, and will frustrate your support system in the process.Accept your feelings. People experience all kinds of emotions after the death of someone close. Sadness, anger, frustration and even exhaustion are all normal.Take care of yourself and your family. Eating well, exercising and getting plenty of rest helps us get through each day and move forward.Reach out and help others dealing with the loss. Helping others has the added benefit of making you feel better as well. Sharing stories of the deceased can help everyone cope.Remember and celebrate the lives of your loved ones. Possibilities include donating to a favorite charity of the deceased, Having Cremation jewelry made to share the memory of your loved one daily,
framing photos of fun times, passing on a family name to a baby or planting a garden in memory. What you choose is up to you, as long as it allows you honor that unique relationship in a way that feels right to you. If you feel stuck or overwhelmed by your emotions, it may be helpful to talk with a licensed psychologist or other mental health professionals who can help you cope with your feelings and find ways to get back on track.
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